Adoption

I think I'm going to preface this post by saying I have no idea what my future holds or where I'll end up or who will end up in my life. But I want to talk about adoption. (I feel the need to clarify also that Dan and I are not planning on having children for some time-so don't ask/pressure/etc. And, more importantly, the 10 lbs I've gained that anyone who knows me will understand how excited I am about it, has nothing to do with anything growing inside me unless I'm growing tumors in my bum. I gained the weight on my own, so no baby jokes, I deserve my credit. Thank you).

Dan has 3 siblings who were adopted into his family, and Dan and I believe that at some point in the distant(distant) future we will probably adopt. My frustration comes from pretty much everyone I've told so far warning me of adopting a child of a different race. I realize most of these people won't read this post so it's mainly all for my own benefit and solidifying (and questioning) what I believe already.

My first response is that every child in the entire world lacks something. There is no possible way for a parent to be the perfect parent. I would think that would be obvious.

Point number 2 is that all children need love. So, if you can love a child no matter what, I think that is the most important part of parenting.

And lastly, obviously as a white person with privilege I will never fully understand what another person (let alone person of a different race) will go through. The best I can do is listen, do my whole hearted best to understand, and perhaps guide them to someone who really can be sympathetic so that they won't just experience empathy from me (since empathy will in many situations all I can give).

But I believe that all these things are things good parents do no matter the circumstances. Yes, every parent will face different problems to be sorted out depending on different situations, and every parent has to figure out what will work and what is best for the child. But of the millions of children out there who need love, which I believe is the most important thing in a child's life, are you going to be picky about the rest of the stuff?